I am talking about love in the sense of romantic love. I am very short and ugly which makes me very unattractive. Never had a girlfriend or touched a girl. I have many girl friends but one of them was my crush but I never asked her as I knew she would never like me. I know people will say that just get successful and rich and girls will like you, but will they like me or just money. What is the point of dating then. Is there any way I will get genuine love or am I destined to live alone for life.

All the girls say they want a tall guy, I can’t grow my height, trust me I tried, I visited the doctor, I tried exercise, I tried hormones, I tried a special diet that some random YouTuber told me, I tried everything. I can’t become tall for you. I am still thinking about limb lengthening surgery, The doctor said it is very risky and very possible I could never walk, but I want to take every chance possible. Trust me I tried. As soon as I get money I am doing surgery. This was my limit I can’t go beyond that.

        • GoodStuffEh@lemmy.ca
          6·
          9 months ago

          Why is that? You obviously have already made up your mind on the subject, seeing other answers. Were you simply seeking validation? I don’t take problem with that, but don’t outright reject the people who are providing genuine responses to your query. Given this is a largely anonymous platform, we have no context on what you actually look like, and you may very well be ugly enough that it has as big of an impact as you indicate it does. The advice being posted is valid for 99.9% of people, but you have to understand that we don’t know what you’re working with. On top of that, most of what is being said is also just good life advice to follow in general, even if it doesn’t get you a partner.

            • GoodStuffEh@lemmy.ca
              1·
              9 months ago

              As I said, it’s also good life advice, they’re not mutually exclusive. For most people, those things are going to improve relationship and the likelihood of being in a romantic one. If you are in fact too ugly for someone to be physically attracted to you, you need to make yourself more emotionally and personably attractive. So far, the ugliest part I’ve seen about you is your attitude, and that’s going to have a waaay bigger effect on what people think of you. I’m a straight dude, and judging from this post I wouldn’t want to spend time with you in a platonic manner, let alone an intimate one simply because you’re coming across like a dick head. It sounds like you’re entirely focused on what you can’t do, while rejecting any notion that you can improve yourself and your chances. I don’t blame women for not wanting any part of that.

    • xmunk@sh.itjust.works
      4·
      9 months ago

      NoStupidQuestions doesn’t include “Let’s have a pity party to reinforce my own preconceived notions” - I met my spouse on a MUD (basically a text based multi-player role playing game). We formed a connection before we knew what the other person looked like or their gender (I’m pan so whatever in that regard).

      The answer above is wrong, relationships built on appearance alone are doomed to be miserable… don’t buy into the pity party.