• Feirdro@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    You sound like yellow in this conversation, not understanding that dating is about getting to know someone from the outside in. You gotta start somewhere, like a favorite song. You can’t jump straight to childhood trauma or politics or something or it will never work. Trust takes time.

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      1 year ago

      It sounded pushy to me when the person kept pressing the song question after yellow deflected it, but ok. Thanks.

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        1 year ago

        First, they’re gobsmacked that they wouldn’t answer it. Then it becomes obvious it’s a red flag. Finally they know they’ll never meet this person in real life, so why not fuck with them.

        I’m saying, it’s a journey.

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          1 year ago

          Ic, makes sense. Tell me something else, do those “normies” (I haven’t met very many) actually have substantial text conversations on those annoying on screen phone keyboards? I can stand one or two texts that way, but then want to move to a real computer.