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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • If you use an electric beard trimmer to cut the long stubble down first it works better. Any razor does, but especially safety razors, since there’s only one cutting blade per side and when it’s clogged with longer hairs must be fully cleaned out for a perfect shave.













  • I’m usually the last person to suggest ANY kind of religious organization for support, but if you are living in a liberal city, you might want to get connected with a United Church of Christ congregation (after doing your due diligence to make sure you see rainbows everywhere). I am not religious, but for reasons I went to one in Durham, and there was definitely a culture of helping out LGBTQ+ folks, everything from providing housing and social support for homeless queer youth rejected by their families and folks in situations quite similar to your own. The one I went to had a lesbian pastor and a transman pastor in training. Again, I am atheist as fuck but these were good people that were doing excellent work with no Jesus strings attached, a lot of whom weren’t even religious but just liked the community. It sounds like you don’t just need money, you also need some compassion and care. They could help with all three. Just know that there are people like me who hear you and want to help get you back on your feet, okay?



  • Yes - everyone has been bitten by the politeness bug. As a Yankee stuck down here for the foreseeable future, I am sick and tired of the slowness. Slow to get to the point, slow to respond, and a response that is so genteel that I have to parse what they said to understand what they really mean – for fuck’s sake, just speak your mind instead of blessing people’s heart.


  • Not to mention the fire ants, aedes aegypti and aedes albopictus mosquitoes that stray far from water and will bite you in the high noon summer sun, Lone Star ticks that bite you and make you deathly allergic to consuming mammal and increase your risk of stroke dramatically if you continue to even eat dairy, and slow drivers in the passing lane that perversely makes the rightmost lane better suited for actually passing folks. Where high humidity makes 74 degrees feel like a sauna so I’m sweating just trying to get my kid in the car.



  • I could have probably picked a better example than your comment, to be fair. I’ve just had way too many people assume my perspective on here. Had one person who made a confusing comment, and their perspective was not at all clear - after two folks asked for clarification, they had a meltdown, started shouting “FASCISTS SHALL HAVE NO VICTORY HERE,” calling everyone white, Nazis, fascists, and telling them to go into a bunker to kill themselves like Hitler. When all that people wanted was to understand the person’s confusing comment. That’s an extreme form of assumption but milder instances happen all of the fucking time. I don’t know why it is so worse here than reddit was (maybe selective memory and its the same, I don’t know).