My partner’s Chihuahua hates gettint wet, but he has no problem yellowing his front leg when he pees. Also when he takes a shit, he moves on of his feet up and down slowly, like he is pumping the shit out.
He does not ever want you to stop petting him. When you take a break, he pushes his head into your hand or paws at it, much like a cat would do.
How about innocently asking “how would that help?”
In the case of quota, they are necessary because of women not being promoted to higher positions as frequently as men. This has nothing to do with your gender in your ID card.
In the case of pay gap, most of it is explained by jobs most often held by women being payed worse. This doesn’t get better by changing your gender.
With just asking “how would that help?”, you put the other person in a position to explain their argument, and maybe they reflect a little.