‘Unkind’ is such a diplomatic way to put it! I used to post a lot on Reddit say around 2008-12, then it began to get a bit intolerable. Some subs you were guaranteed to have an ‘unkind’ response or a deluge of downvotes I think because people were so hyper-competitive about their comments being seen over yours, because of that engagement issue you mention.
Depends on the kind of game I think. Certain games I do play for the challenge (FromSoft, TBT, RTS, rogue-likes and lites). Others I’m playing for Story (RPGs).
I think a good example of a game that was too difficult (for me) but had an engaging story that I wanted to play was Celeste. I hate precision platformers. But they Devs knocked that out of the park in terms of accessiblity options so I could tweak it until it was enjoyable for me, and enjoy a beautiful story with beautiful music.