This feels like a completely different conversation to me just wanting fries deep fried in beef tallow again. And that you can’t find these kind of things easily out there anymore as everyone argues about being healthy.

Yeah but I want the choice without having to cook for myself sometimes.

Can we all just collectively accept death is an inevitability and eat tasty food? This need for perfection in everything we touch is killing me.

Democrats deciding there is no point marketing themselves towards most of the country and only to specific counties in states they think they have done the math on for exactly the policies needed to get their votes is a strategy that needs to stop.

Thinking it’s smart that they have “gamed” the election while still rolling in more donations than ever before is ridiculous.

Time is not the problem but message absolutely is.

Get ready for all the stages of grief at the same time and I’ll warn you.
Most people get stuck on denial and anger.

I call them a cunt and I get yelled at for being unprofessional in a social media platform and I get banned for them being an an instigator that purposefully states incorrect and inflammatory things.

It has happened. I’ve been called a lot of things and responding to it saying it’s bait from an asshole got me banned for like 7 days months ago on a lemmy.world news thread. The person got upvotes and praise for sticking up for themselves.

This platform likes the bad faith and calling them out is an attack on the in groups that like it. This is a large part here and why I think it’s bad at being a welcoming community.

I want it to move in a better direction not just pretend that it’s fine and ignore it. But I’m coming around to not caring. Not thinking about things seems to be standard, and safer for people’s lives.

A vague question like yours does not imply you want an actual answer without dismissing it.

So why would I waste my time typing it out?
It holds just as much weight as your question so feels the same to me.

What’s wrong with wanting something else?

Thank you! I actually appreciate the honesty. That’s something I can work with.

Maybe, hopefully.

I don’t think it is far different from the snark I see but I don’t think I should emulate that I guess if I hate it when done to me. I just don’t like having to take the high road just cause I apparently invite it.

Yeah the topics aren’t necessarily the problem it’s how it’s not a conversation most of the time it’s just snarky fighting to be the most right or up voted cause they act like they are right.

I would hope it’s not these topics making people shutty or else that doesn’t bode well for them.

Why is it generic if it’s how I feel? Isn’t that just a way to claim people upset are wrong? The generic thing seems to be liking it. I’m just pointing out some of the awareness at least of what we are surrounded by anyways that doesn’t seem true for people in the gardening community with a huge house in the suburbs.

I have stuff I like. I just get stuck between young people panicking about existence in a shit world and gen x ignoring it with memes from 3 decades ago in here.

Yeah it’s annoying it’s the majority of conversations in here, but I don’t going around assuming people are neck beards help gets us off that.

What? If you got stuff say it.

Yeah I was already upset by that point and they started by still doubting that I just wanted to ask a question and called me a bullshitter…

But it’s my point. It makes conversations a fight to be right more than a conversation with no backing off. And by the end it just becomes 2 people being awful to each other for spectators.
It feels bad from my perspective and I don’t learn anything.

I think the platform inspires snark and winner takes all mentality.

Asking the bullied to conduct themselves carefully is exactly my point why I don’t like this place.

You are assuming the conversations that I’m upset about but it’s ones where I ask a question and get told I’m trolling and a liar for not knowing something or a liar for knowing something.

I shared details about physics of material fabrication in space once in a thread had a person just “nuh-uh” me and call me names and then people all agreed with him despite the fact that I tried to point I had a dual major in theoretical astrophysics and Astro xenobiology.

Like whoever gets the people laughing and speaks like they have a big enough dick around here is still right by default. That isn’t a community it’s a cesspit.

I just hate the idea of blocking people for one time being a jerk. I’ve disagreed with people then agreed with them later.

I dunno I seem to want something that might not exist? It sure as heck feels lonely.

They like to watch modern movies and shows that aren’t marvel, usually have good takes on influencera in here and have the right hate for vtubers.

Plus I think they are just closer to my age and social awkward nerds that are easy to call neckbeards. I’m not gonna get pop culture references of Gen X who seem to make a majority in here.

Yeah I think I’ve realized I’m really only seeing the basic big theads on lemmy.world and the moderation there is kill or be killed and whatever the mods giggle at is allowed. Which means they let dogpiling happen if it seems deserved.

I’m apparently in a rather small instance.

https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/comment/14445762

Third message after they told me to “get gud” for not being able to buy another PC and then treating me like a toddler for saying it didn’t make sense to own multiple PCs just to have one we don’t use for Linux and he asked if he “held my little hand long enough”

I ain’t casting many stones first unless you consider the questions and the follows up an invitation to attack.

Yeah I’m starting to think it’s just nature of people to be shitty.

Any subject at all and if someone thinks themselves better than you (and they will) then it’s practically pointless. They just like the high of feeling right more than anything else.

Edit: also near 50/50 split so I guess this was an unpopular opinion

Someone argued with me and called me a lot of rude things cause I called them privileged for them saying everyone should just buy an extra computer that they can use to run linux.

Like when I called them out on it and said it’s a lot for people to just buy multiple devices for the sake of being both on Linux and Windows if people don’t have a purpose for Linux he called me a troll and spoke down to me as if his existence and level of life was what everyone else lives.

It’s not just politics. It’s not even the politics that upsets me it’s the condescending self righteous know it all attitude that’s everywhere in this platform. That their life is objectively the way to be. It’s pompous and that’s absolutely the users.