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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • Also, you stating that “there’s more to the story” is you doing a form of what I described above…which is pushing back on the person complaining and not on the underlying rude behavior.

    I don’t think this is true. I stated that the staring behavior would be considered very rude and implied heavily that whoever is staring is in the wrong. To be clear, whoever is staring is in the wrong. They should not do this.

    It’s more that I’m surprised that you’re running into this issue. In my social circle, staring would be considered extremely rude and, if I complained to others about it, people would strongly agree. This is what led me to believe that there’s some extra piece of info here. For example, maybe you come from a culture where staring is acceptable or you’re young and happen to be surrounded by jackasses.


  • I feel like there’s more to this story. My experience is US centric, but it’s considered very rude to stare at people… and I can’t imagine why anyone would tell you “maybe the issue is you” when you complained about folks staring at you.

    I will say that a large number of guys don’t realize how obvious they are when checking out someone they’re attracted to.







  • I don’t see a problem with it but there’s definitely a stigma associated with it. (At least in the US) I think folks who pay are seen as not being able to find it elsewhere which may make them appear as not desirable to other people which then may make your partner question if they’re making a bad choice. Unless you happen to be in an area that has well regulated sex workers, I imagine people might think that you’ve been exposed to STDs which may give you a perception of being “unclean”.

    I don’t think you should have to lie when finding a partner… but I do think telling them this (at the beginning) may be problematic for you for a lot of people.

    I’d love to see sex work well regulated, protected, and normalized in the US but I don’t think we’re there.