I’m not a fella, but either
Phone and husband
Or
Purse (keys, phone, wallet, work badge, hair clips, vitamins & medicines, measuring tape, lip balm, hand cream, cloth to clean glasses, crow whistle, gaming dice.)
I’m not a fella, but either
Phone and husband
Or
Purse (keys, phone, wallet, work badge, hair clips, vitamins & medicines, measuring tape, lip balm, hand cream, cloth to clean glasses, crow whistle, gaming dice.)
The cocktail-averse I know all seem to like:
Margarita
Paloma
Pineapple, whiskey and lime
Mojito
You do not need to enjoy cocktails, there is plenty of other food and drink to build a palate, but if you want to learn to like the spirits and liqueurs in them, fizzy water is a way - I find whiskey & tequila in particular too strong to be able to taste and enjoy them, and most liqueurs way too sweet, but one shot in a glass of Topo Chico or other good fizzy water to dilute them? That lets me actually taste what people enjoy about them. Which then lets me think about what I might like them mixed with.
And I would like to plug [email protected] we can make recommendations based on what you already like.
It’s harder to think about “enough” in places like India (or even the US) where there is so much inequality.
But I would define “enough” as comfortable. Not worried about bills, buying whatever groceries you want, a good living situation and enough cushion that an emergency won’t make you homeless.
The addiction to more, more, more is a disorder like hoarding is.
Well I have kids your age, so a literal generation gap? Yes.
I think Lemmy has age diversity, more so than other platforms.
There are two answers for me. Sometimes I stop and think my way out of it and am ok after a couple hours, I can let it go.
Sometimes I just get angrier and angrier as I think about it, and in that situation I must talk to the other party. That usually takes a day or two because it takes me that long to realize I’m not gonna calm down, am still mad. But every time this has happened, the other party has apologized because they, in the same intervening time, have realized they were being asshole-ish.
Nobody I know takes that long to tell me, if I am being asshole-ish. It can take me an hour or so to calm down and apologize.
All of this assumes good intentions on all sides. My ex, you couldn’t back down or apologize with him, he saw it as weakness and would mock, was terrible at fighting.
Bourbon sour, unless it’s a good bar, then a margarita. If it’s really not a good bar, like at a concert then vodka cranberry or whiskey pineapple.
But at like a restaurant bar, mid tier, a bourbon sour.
Oh, Mr. Flickerman. Old people have sex. More than young people since now not as many distractions, no young kids or chance of pregnancy. I think a better way to express this is, it’s not important as long as it’s not a problem. I agree the friendship part is more important, but having a similar sex drive makes everything work better, and sex is not a silly thing to need in a romantic relationship, it’s not a frivolous extra.
Because you are in the middle of nowhere? There are so many people in the world, I cannot imagine nobody is into you. Above I see you say something about “people like you” but you seem to be able to communicate well and keep your cool, that puts you ahead of a lot of guys.
If you are around 40, it’s a pretty good age for looking for a partner. A lot of movement in the market, for lack of a better term.
If you want to hook up, get out there and talk to people. If you literally just want sex and not relationship, I can guarantee you that somewhere someone will be thrilled to break you in, no question. Anything you can imagine, someone gets off on it.
If you want a whole different life and sex is just part of what you are dissatisfied with, that is up to you to change - the point of power is always in the now. It doesn’t matter who you were, and while there are outside forces, you can do a lot to change your own life.
Ha! Well, certainly don’t try it with your dog.
I wish you luck, but if you haven’t tried sex by now maybe it isn’t your thing? Have you no girl-or- boyfriend to try it with? If you start old, you may have to go through the awkward part still but I think it will pass more quickly because you are, presumably, more mature and less hung up.
Dude. You are still a kid. Not missing out on anything yet.
And yes sex is awesome if it’s good, but takes some practice usually before it is good. It’s free and fun and good for relationships. Better when older and not so self conscious.
You can certainly afford to wait for years, literally no reason to rush, all you are missing out on is the awkward bad part.
Make a vinaigrette then crumble in blue cheese and shake it together. That might be my favorite, or at least the best one I’m usually willing to make.
I guess we could use a little ice age right around now, and it would also be nice to have a Renaissance around the corner.
Someone said inns and taverns, and yes it’s a missing piece of housing here - long term hotels with food, bars/restaurants with rooms to rent above.
Not much though, it is not a time I’d visit.
I grew up without AC in Florida.
Sit in the shade with a fan, be still. If in the shade and a breeze, and not moving around, a pretty high temperature is comfortable.
Go to places with cold AC or to cold springs to get cold, it will last awhile after you leave.
If it gets cool at night, open your window at night to let in the cold air, close it in the morning to keep that air in for the morning. But once it heats up inside, you are better off with ventilation - open windows on both sides of the house and run fans, to move air throughout the house.
If it’s dry where you are (it doesn’t work here) get wet and let evaporation cool you. Even here you can get wet and stand naked in front of a fan you will get cold.
STAY HYDRATED.
Orange soda.
With my third baby, she did not want to come out (in stark contrast to her sisters, who all seemed to want to give me about one hour of advance notice before getting born) and the midwife said, before trying induction, try castor oil, sometimes it will kick the labor on. Not a spoonful, no. A whole bunch. And don’t puke it out. I chased it with orange soda because I liked it but figured I could certainly manage without it.
Oh God. I couldn’t even look at orange soda without nausea for several years. And it didn’t even work, I still had to get induced!
I think populations will crash, either gently through fewer kids, or violently through war and disease. That will likely throw us backwards technologically, maybe not.
Or, who knows, maybe the population will stabilize and we get everything going in the right direction, then an asteroid hits.
Emmylou Harris wrote two that are so beautiful and so sad, if you need to cry, Boulder to Birmingham:
"I don’t want to hear a sad song full of heartbreak and desire
The last time I felt like this, I was in the wilderness, and the canyon was on fire
And I stood on the mountain in the night and I watched it burn, I watched it burn"
And also in the same song she sings - “well you really got me this time, and the hardest part is knowing I’ll survive” wow.
If that somehow doesn’t work, Red Dirt Girl might.
"She loved her brother, I remember back when
He was fixing up a 49 Indian
Told her, little sister gonna ride the wind, up around the moon and back again
Well he never got farther than Vietnam, I was standing there with her when the telegram come for Lillian
Now he’s lying somewhere about a million miles from Meridian "
Beebop-a-rebop-a-rhubarbar!
My mom wasn’t much of a cook but I loved when she made seafood boils, put newspaper all over the table and we ate it all with hands.
My dad made Chicken Kiev it was so good.
Maternal grandma made fried chicken, and gave us bags of pecans, she would sit on the porch with her boyfriend for hours while they shelled pecans and talked.
Paternal grandma I remember oyster dressing at Christmas, yum. And I remember her lighting cigarettes on the gas stove.
I just wanna say I am sorry that it is near impossible for single dads to adopt kids. I understand the reasoning but want to cry because there are kids who need parents but you can’t be the parent to one.
https://www.faulkcalls.com/product-page/walnut-crow-call
Is the one I have. It sounds good, you can make a lot of different noises with it.