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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I don’t think it’s as simple as coming down to choice. Planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning takes a non-trivial amount of time and effort that not every person can afford even if they can afford ingredients. It’s not uncommon for people in the city to come home exhausted after 70 hours work week and hour long commutes.

    Sometimes it’s not physically or mentally possible to sustain the kind of min-maxing lifestyle of cooking under a tight budget. Cooking is hard, cooking affordably is even harder. Sometimes, having a steak for dinner is one of the few things that keeps people happy enough to not kill themselves in an exploitative work culture while being crushed by unaffordable housing.

    I don’t think OP is necessary overspending because it really depends on where they live, how many hours they work, what their living situation is like, how much of their own mental load they carry.

    I’ve lived on a tight budget before. For a time I made do with $30 a week in an expensive town, albeit almost a decade ago. I skimmed on everything I could and bought as many $1 bags of spoiled vegetables as I could, trimmed off all the moldy parts, and just made whatever vegetable soup I could every week. This is one of like 50 other things I had to do to get by. And it wasn’t great for my mental health. It sucked to have to spend so much time and energy when I had so few hours left in a day to do all this.

    Living cheap has a cost too. I don’t think it’s fair to assume that OP is necessary choosing to waste money when we don’t know where they live or what else is going on in their life.



  • Yeah but women with PCOS are fat all over

    Nope, think again. In addition to being fat all over women with PCOS also develop higher proportions of belly fat due to fluctuating testosterone levels. This is not unlike beer bellies that men develop.

    This, combined with bloating can lead to a distended belly similar to the woman in the picture. I know because I have PCOS and yes, it can get that bad. I had people personally come up to me and shamelessly ask if I was pregnant.

    There is no universal ‘look’ to PCOS. You cannot diagnose or undiagnose someone based on how they look, especially if they suffer from lean PCOS. Look up pictures of ‘PCOS belly’ and you’ll see a wide range of stomach, many to the point of appearing pregnant.


  • The replies in this post is precisely why we need better sex ed.

    There’s an astounding number of people who aren’t aware about PCOS or IBS and think that the woman in the ad is actually stupid for taking a pregnancy test.

    I have both, and my doctor had to give me an hGC test to rule out pregnancy because my abdomen was as bloated as the woman in the picture.

    Neither of these conditions are rare, and either one can cause bloating and swelling, often chronically, to this degree.


  • Yes. PCOS causes hormonal imbalances in that lead to bloating, abnormal amounts of abdominal fat, cramps. The cherry on top is having IBS at the same time.

    Everything combined stretches my stomach to the point where my skin hurts. When I consulted my doctor about it, she had to do an hCG test to be sure that I wasn’t pregnant.





  • Zyrtec and Flo-nase works well for me, but everyone’s biochemistry is different. I recommend getting an allergy panel if you have access to affordable healthcare. Otherwise, try every OTC allergy med one at a time.

    Here is a wild theory: I have cats and I’m not directly allergic to them, but I found that brushing them helps improve dust mite allergies because they shed less and leave fewer surfaces for dust mites to cling to.