This is the way. Keep us updated OP

“It is hardest to wake those who pretend to sleep.”

For most English linguistics questions, this will be the answer.

I was told that the rest of the saying is “but it’s a good place to start.”

Even if this were true, have you considered why it would happen? Do people who feel love and support from their communities fall prey to suicide at the same rate as those begging to be accepted? Hell, I’m a cis white hetero male.