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  • Lemmy@lemm.eeOPtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlAdvice on finding a partner?
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    2 months ago

    The healthiest relationships stem from natural friendships because you build up a base of stuff in common and have a lot of trust before you ever make the jump to “do you wanna go out with me?”

    See, that’s where I fucked up. My dumbass texted her at 12AM and asked if she wanted to hang out the next day (She’s usually up around that time, we both goto the gym around 11PM, which is why I thought it was okay). But we had only talked around 4-5 times, each conversation we had was good, but when it comes to texting, I fail miserably there. I think I just got too excited to meet her, and was a bit too forward. I completely messed up. Well, now I know not to do that again at least, lesson learned :(












  • I want to clarify that the patch I submitted was a work in progress. On two separate occasions, I sought guidance regarding when to submit it and was instructed to wait for a week. The understanding was that Leah and I would continue working on it during the following week. Unfortunately, the patch got accidentally closed during that waiting period.

    My communication was bad and I understand that I need to do better. The comment Leah made about being ‘too slow’ contradicts the circumstances, as I followed the guidance to wait for input during the specified timeframe.


  • I appreciate your response. To provide more context, I sought guidance on two separate occasions regarding when to submit the patch, and each time, I was instructed to wait for a week. The plan was to resume collaboration with Leah in the following week.

    Unexpectedly, the patch got accidentally closed during that period. While my discontent was evident in the IRC logs, I acknowledge that my approach could have been more composed. I do need to better my communication skills and I will try to learn from this.

    Regarding Leah’s comment about being ‘too slow,’ there appears to be a misunderstanding. I followed the guidance to wait for their input during the specified timeframe. The assertion that I don’t deserve credit due to being ‘too slow’ contradicts the circumstances.

    I attempted to discuss my concerns about credit attribution the day before the chat they currently have posted, initially in #libreboot, where I inadvertently posted it before attempting to take it to DMs. Unfortunately, the responses I received felt dismissive. From the outset, I was informed that there are IRC logs of our work together, and I was advised not to make any public posts about this issue. Initially, I had asked in a neutral manner, but as I observed dismissiveness, a sense of frustration arose. This prompted me to seek resolution by sharing my concerns here two days after we had tried to talk this out.

    It’s important to clarify that I only brought up this issue twice this week, not throughout the entire week, as Leah mentioned. Leah stated that I harassed them for a week, which is inaccurate, as I only brought up this issue with them on two occasions. I felt frustrated with the dismissive responses. I believe that the effort I invested deserves a fair evaluation and acknowledgment in the context of the project’s collaboration. Moreover, it’s worth noting that this patch had implications beyond supporting just one board; it contributed to the addition of several desktop boards.











  • They took the port that I was making for this board, they told me to wait a week, and then closed off my patch and took all the credit. The OG patch that I made was a WIP, we were looking over it to see what was wrong and I noted down what was wrong and fixed it in my next patch, which never got submitted because they told me to wait a week. They recreated the patch that I made from scratch once they got their hands on the board and submitted it.


  • Yes, but the patch that I made after that didn’t go through because they closed off my original patch. I don’t think I have a bruised ego for just wanting proper credit. How are you going to tell me its okay for someone to just make someone wait a week, close off their patch, and take all the credit? This was intentional from Leah and it’s pretty obvious. I do care about the project and open computing, the only reason I said I wanted this to go on my resume is because I literally have no job and am looking for a career in IT.