I use this stuff. link
You could also try this stuff if you can’t find the men’s version. link
Whatever you order you are looking for something that says bikini or intimate.
Apply everywhere but balls first and then apply to balls. Wipe off in the order you applied after waiting however long. Rinse REALLY WELL with water but don’t use any soap. Soothing lotion optional afterward, I don’t need it.
Keep it off the anus itself if doing your butt crack or you’re going to have a burning sensation.
You can buy depilatory that is made for intimate areas but you still can’t put it on the vagina or the butthole. It burns.
I am so sorry, you are going to be miserable for a few days. Lotions and balms are probably going to make it sting even worse.