I am talking about love in the sense of romantic love. I am very short and ugly which makes me very unattractive. Never had a girlfriend or touched a girl. I have many girl friends but one of them was my crush but I never asked her as I knew she would never like me. I know people will say that just get successful and rich and girls will like you, but will they like me or just money. What is the point of dating then. Is there any way I will get genuine love or am I destined to live alone for life.

All the girls say they want a tall guy, I can’t grow my height, trust me I tried, I visited the doctor, I tried exercise, I tried hormones, I tried a special diet that some random YouTuber told me, I tried everything. I can’t become tall for you. I am still thinking about limb lengthening surgery, The doctor said it is very risky and very possible I could never walk, but I want to take every chance possible. Trust me I tried. As soon as I get money I am doing surgery. This was my limit I can’t go beyond that.

    • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      21·
      9 months ago

      You need to isolate the person in your head telling you this, take them out back and shoot them dead. This is a defeatist attitude and it’s simply hindering you. Not only that, it’s only superficially true. It doesn’t conform with a wider wealth of personal experiences that myself and many others certainly have.

      This. This way of thinking is your biggest enemy.

        • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          18·
          9 months ago

          Naw dude, it’s manufactured and it’s limiting you. Others may participate in this manufactured concept but its still manufactured. You’re not gonna overcome that until you figure out how to destroy the part of you that believes this.

            • idiomaddict@feddit.de
              6·
              9 months ago

              Is it truth that no unattractive, short man has ever had a relationship without being rich? No. That means it’s possible, which means it’s possible for you. But frankly, it’s not going to happen if you are in your own head about it.

            • DaGeek247@fedia.io
              3·
              9 months ago

              The only truth here is the one you choose. There are upward of seven billion people in the world. The truth you chase is the one that becomes your reality, especially when it comes to your relationships with other people.

              To answer your question; believing yourself to be ugly and that woman only date men taller than you is a bigger factor in your ability to find a partner than the woman who dont date short and/or nonconventionally attractive men.

        • ivanafterall@kbin.social
          10·
          9 months ago

          What would you say if I told you there are girls who actually prefer short guys? Hell, some people just like variety–I appreciate tall women, short women, medium women. I like 'em all.

          Having said that, I have met the girls you’re referencing. They do exist. A few months back, I went on a coffee date with a girl. Just before it, she made some joke about wanting to make sure I’m tall, because she hates dancing with guys who are shorter than her, so she just wanted to make sure. I wanted to vomit. I very rarely encounter a girl taller than me. I’m ~6’1, maybe pushing a little higher on a good day when my posture is okay. I want nothing to do with a girl who so values my height. Because if it’s THAT important, you’re literally one 6’3 guy away from a relationship crisis. By the way, the reason she was like that? She was taller than average. She was insecure and taking it out on everyone else. But imagine if I’d said to her, “I’m sorry, I just prefer shorter women. I find them more feminine.” Gross. She was surprised when I didn’t bother to hug her or…anything else, really…after coffee. Just got in my car and left. Whether you’re tall or short, that’s a bad match.

          There are girls who are like you say, but they are absolutely not all like that. You just need to focus on a better class of prospect.

            • FeminalPanda@lemmings.world
              1·
              9 months ago

              I’m right here, but they have to not give a shit about height, if they shit on themselves all they time, like you are doing them it just makes it draining to be around them.

                • FeminalPanda@lemmings.world
                  1·
                  9 months ago

                  My boyfriend right now is almost a foot shorter than me, I’m 5’11. I don’t need a man to be my master in any sense but he still makes me feel safe when I’m with him and safe emotionally when away from him.

                  • Quitmuch1938@lemmy.worldOP
                    12·
                    9 months ago

                    No way your bf is 4’11 unless you are dating a minor, I would have believed you if you said 5’7 or something 4’11, forget about dating a 4’11 guy, I challenge you to find an adult 4’11 guy

      • xmunk@sh.itjust.works
        71·
        9 months ago

        That asshole is more deserving of age restriction than porn - if you ever hear a nephew bring him up you need to stomp that shit out immediately. What a fucking clown.

    • mrnotoriousman@kbin.social
      61·
      9 months ago

      As a short dude you couldn’t be more wrong. Get off incel forums and go talk to real people. Just make sure you shower first.