Two of my coworkers frequently mention shows like “Encounters” or “Ancient apocalypse” or whatever. I’m not the best at debating or forming arguments against these though I do feel strongly that bold claims require better evidence than a blurry photo and an eyewitness account. How do you all go about this?
Today I clumsily stumbled through conversation and said “I’ll need some evidence” and was hit with “there’s plenty of evidence in the episode ‘Lights over Fukushima’”. I didn’t have an answer because I haven’t watched it. I’m 99% sure that if I watch it it’s gonna be dramatized, designed to scare/freak you out a little and consist of eyewitness accounts and blurry photos set to eerie music. But I’m afraid I just sound like a haughty know-it-all if I do assert this before watching.
These are good people and I want to remain on good terms and not come across as a cynical asshole.
(Sorry if language is too formal or stilted. Not my native tongue)
If they take a netflicks show as evidence, I seriously doubt you will be able to convince them otherwise.
Yeah. Also it’s not my place to raise adults. But a part of me wishes to plant a seed of skepticism. I have a hard time nodding and going along with it. I feel compelled to question it rather than going along with this kind of small talk.
Your answer is right there. Plant seeds of doubt. Ask questions about it. Wow! Did they get footage?! Really? There must be two sources for such a wild thing to have happened! What does Snopes say? Lmfao
You don’t have to convince them but you also don’t have to listen either.
You just have to decide that any issues with cutting them off when they start talking about it is worth the effort or if it may cause problems at work.
I’ll think on this. Thank you :)
Let people be wrong.
I’m with this. Unless it is about work, let people believe what they want. Or else you end up discussing a lot of stuff like religion and politics in a place it doesn’t need to be.
You should pick your battles. Think pretty carefully about what you actually want to debate/pushback on because it’s exhaustive and requires you to research the topic. It’s probably a waste of your time doing the research to debunk these alien sightings since a new one pops up every few months.
Yeah. Maybe I should ask general questions but not push back on anything. Like “What about this episode convinced you?”. “Do you think that’s enough evidence or would you like to see something more?”. “Wow, so why isn’t this all over the news, do you think?”
Or is this line of questioning too obvious?
I agree with others that it might not be worth it
If you do want something though, to pass the time or whatever, this is a pretty good video on how to address them
Ultimate Conspiracy Debunker - Kurzgesagt (typing on the bus, sorry for mispelling it)
Thank you. I’ll check it out tomorrow. Currently resisting sleep longer than I ought to.
Cheers, have a good sleep
Just ignore and avoid the topic the best you can. Don’t confront. Just go, “ohh ok” and move on. Pretend you need to go to the toilet or that you have something else to do if you can’t break free from the conversation.
It’s about as futile as trying to convince a religious fanatic that their views may not be ideal for everyone; you just don’t. Ignore and avoid.
Ignoring is so hard 😅 I never bring it up.
I don’t think they’re fanatics. I just think their curiousity, with inexperience in healthy skepticism, has found a very easy outlet.
But I guess you’re right. The current state of astrobiology isn’t as exciting and people want to wonder. Maybe hard science is too difficult to sell in this case.
Have fun man. Start coming up with even crazier theories and one up them to the extreme with ever bolder madness, get creative. “Pfft you think Japan it real? They don’t want you to know that we bombed them out of existence and we gave the country to the Venusians! It was all part of Reagan’s contract in exchange for more nuclear power, but he was a lizard…”
The Italian military has been simulating Japan with AI for centuries now. The Italians took one of their own words, tiramisu, and made up a whole language from that.
It’s no coincidence ちらみす looks like spaghetti. They literally made this alphabet by throwing spaghetti at the wall and then started borrowing evolved bone-script from the Chinese when they got bored with pasta-to-wall terrorism!
Patiently explain that “alien encounters” are just the playful trickery of the Fae, who have been pulling this sort of thing for much longer than anyone was imagining spaceships.
If you want to win a fist fight, bring a rocket launcher.
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Yeah even showing incredulity will keep the other person engaged, just be as boring a conversation partner as possible during the subject, try at every opportunity to change the subject, and eventually they’ll either get the hint, or just start bugging someone whose more fun to talk about it with
If they didn’t use reason and logic to make up their minds, you don’t stand much of a chance using them to change their minds.
Set phasers to full power!
This might sound like a crazy answer from a crazy person but hear me out. If they are good people and you’re somewhat familiar with them, just call them kooks, say that shit’s all made up and dismiss it. just don’t be aggressive about it, people can still be on good terms without agreeing on everything. Just be like “nah man, no way that happened these shows are just people who want attention, if it was real there’d be better evidence and it’d be all over the news.”
I honestly think this is the best way to go, you’re engaging them honestly, attacking the show, not them. And so long as you don’t get hung up on their response or ‘winning the argument’ I think you can all remain on good terms. How you go about this obviously depends on how friendly you are with them but if they’re good people they’ll still be your friend even if you’re too dumb to see the truth about aliens.
“How to deal with Ancient aliens in the workplace?”
Man, for a second I thought you are talking about older, immigrant co-workers.
The thing is that other than the odd true believer, most people who watch these things are not interested in engaging in an intellectual debate about them. It’s essentially a diversion and light entertainment.
“Stilted”?
You sir, are one of those fucking amazing people who profusely apologize for not being a native English speaker and then blurt out 37 paragraphs of perfect English.
You have nothing to be ashamed of - your English is better than a lot of them native speakers ! And always remember this :
“You are speaking English because that is the only language you know; I am speaking English because that is the only language you know. We are not the same.”
And as to your original question - if I ever ask them “what evidence did you see which proves X happens?”, I have almost always been hit with the reply, “Oh yeah? What proof do you have that says X does not happen???”. And then I tell them the anecdote of the Invisible Dragon by Carl Sagan. Look it up if this is new to you, and for a more formal treatment, check out Karl Popper’s theory of Falsifiability.
I have personally converted at least one conspiracy theorist to being an Agnostic. So I know it works. Try them out, it’s fun.
And I also am not a native English speaker to be honest :-)
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your written English is great
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conversation does not need to be debate. What these people really want is to talk. Ask questions, like “what evidence did you find most convincing?” Odds are they won’t even notice you didn’t agree with them, they just want to be heard.
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there doesn’t need to be a conversation at all. Drift out of these sorts of conversations or change the topic. I can’t imagine a scenario in which debating the existence of aliens with a coworker would be worth my energy.
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